September 27, 2020: Seeds of Thought
This past week reminded us once again, of the powerful role one can play in the lives of others. We said a final goodbye to our dad, Alfred John Binder, surrounded at home, with love by his family. He would have turned 101 this coming week. In the days since his passing, we have heard from many who he had quietly helped though the years, not only as a parent, but as an advisor, champion, mentor and friend,
A poignant moment that stands out from the rollercoaster of the past two weeks, is when we were still at the hospital and were talking with a nurse from hospice. A “Can-Do” person, Al wanted to know how he was going to maneuver this next chapter of his life. He was a problem-solver, who always looked for answers and worked tirelessly till a resolution was reached. Upon entering hospice, he was accepting the fact that this time, he could not change the eventual outcome.
The nurse quietly replied that during all her years of working in hospice, the patients who made the best transitions had three things in place: They continued to seek joy in life, were grateful for what they had, and maintained a sense of positivity. My dad, responded in agreement, “That’s how I’ve lived my whole life”. And it was true.
With a world seemingly in constant turmoil, it can be a challenge at times to find the joy, be grateful, or to remain positive. Yet, these are the seeds of thought that help us in times of darkness. Despite having been tragically widowed twice, my dad talked about how blessed he was to have had two happy marriages resulting in 3 sons, 3 daughters, 11 grandchildren and two great-granddaughters. He was thankful for all of his gifts in life, and even near the end, with significant health troubles, he was grateful to be alive and embraced each day with gusto. When we worried about things, he would remind us not to “build bridges” we didn’t need, and to wait until we got there to see if we even needed to cross one. And he always emphasized “if I leave anything to you, it’s what I”ve learned in my long life, and it is the power of being positive”.
Upon reflection, I realize how our dad never told us exactly what to do. He shared thoughts and called it, “planting the seeds.” You might not always wanted to have heard those “thoughts” or agreed with them, but his guidance and seeds of sage advice were usually beneficial and right on target.
Our lives are filled with challenges, but we can choose how we face them. If despite the darkness, we celebrate and are grateful for the gift of joyful moments, we can find our way back to positivity. Each one of us in turn, can like my dad, become gardeners, sowing seeds of light back into this troubled world of ours. Can’t you just imagine what a difference it would make?
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